tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9207982360417206747.post2837802589122143893..comments2012-10-30T13:25:53.640-07:00Comments on inside out: Can You Get the Best Out of the Worst?Ayselhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17253565149237467005noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9207982360417206747.post-58950854974420520722010-06-11T07:42:47.188-07:002010-06-11T07:42:47.188-07:00Wow Wilma,
Your comment could be a blog post on i...Wow Wilma,<br /><br />Your comment could be a blog post on its own! :)<br /><br />"...detaching yourself from the nonsense that is going on and see it for what it is" - that's exactly what I am trying to do.<br /><br />"What make you say that you are wasting mentally?" - doing meaningless things on a daily basis, not investing my brain into work, going back to unhappy thoughts more frequently than I want to.<br /><br />But there's one more positive thing I didn't mention - I am grateful. It is my first out-of-college job which I landed as the whole financial crisis was unfolding, I survived 3 cuts, got a lot of useful experience, met really nice people (unfortunately they are all gone to different places). It was rough a times but all in all not that bad for a career start. And now that I can finally put two years of corporate experience on my resume, I can move forward to better things and hopefully better choices. Just a little more patience.<br /><br />Thank you for your comment!Ayselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17253565149237467005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9207982360417206747.post-5498871429281429622010-06-10T19:08:19.910-07:002010-06-10T19:08:19.910-07:00Oh Aysel, thanks for clarifying, I do appreciate t...Oh Aysel, thanks for clarifying, I do appreciate that. Unfortunate choice of word, selfish in this case. I so often encountered people in my work as a career consultant who complained about their job but never wanted to do anything because it paid so well. They came to see me to get a magic pill but in the end they hung in there for the wrong reasons, unselfserving, fearful ones. <br /> <br />What make you say that you are wasting mentally? I think you are doing a great job accepting that at the moment you obviously have no choice and at least you can see that. In that choice you are free as you do know what is holding you there but you are detaching yourself from the nonsense that is going on and see it for what it is. Your mental potential is not used but that is also 'what is so', for the moment.At least you do something about the torture of having to stay there. <br /><br />You are not whining when you are committed to do something about it, even if it is changing your mindset about the situation you cannot change. People who whine and then not take an honest look at the situation are uncommitted, annoying whiners. You are not. xox WilmaWilma Hamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11471301033855335382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9207982360417206747.post-48189504898823493312010-06-10T06:50:42.546-07:002010-06-10T06:50:42.546-07:00Hi Wilma,
"you choose to stay for your own s...Hi Wilma,<br /><br />"you choose to stay for your own selfish reasons" - if I decided to be selfish, I would quit immediately. It's quite the opposite here, I am making a sacrifice, because in this case money is not something I selfishly want, but something the whole family relies on, so I can't let them down.<br /><br />"so you are not wasting away mentally" - I'm afraid I am but I'd doing everything to minimize the effect, as you put it "to turn it into something good". <br /><br />And the whining part is equally annoying to me, that is why I tried to leave some of that annoyance on my blog to have less of it in the real life.Ayselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17253565149237467005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9207982360417206747.post-4761798168698354052010-06-09T19:56:18.141-07:002010-06-09T19:56:18.141-07:00Ha great stuff, I nearly felt annoyed until I read...Ha great stuff, I nearly felt annoyed until I read this; So as always I have to come to my own rescue and dig some good out of the mud. So here’s how you can find positive moments in an unpleasant situation:<br />Cool, that is a good choice, you choose to stay for your own selfish reasons, money, and you are taking responsibility to turn it into something good, so you are not wasting away mentally. xox WilmaWilma Hamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11471301033855335382noreply@blogger.com